Resources

Relationships

with Self & Others

Boundaries

Kohli‍ Kaur, Sahaj (2024). But What Will People Say?: Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love, and Family Between Cultures.

Nagoski, Emily and Amelia (2019). Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.

Nedra Glover, Tawwab (2021). Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself.

Grief, Loss, Transitions & Aging

Cacciatore, Joanne (2017). Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief.

Gawande, Atul (2014). Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End.

Gunter, J. (2021). Menopause Manifesto‍ ‍(& podcast)

Shultz, Kathryn (2022). Lost & Found: A Memoir.

Weller, Francis (2015). The wild edge of sorrow: Rituals of renewal and the sacred work of grief.

Neurodivergence and ADHD

Garcia, Eric (2021 ) We’re Not Broken: Changing the Autism Conversation.

Saline, Sharon (2018).What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life.

Silberman, NeuroTribes: (2015).The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity.

ADDitude Magazine —ADDitude is the trusted resource for anyone with attention deficit disorder (ADD or ADHD) and related conditions — and the professionals who work with them. The ultimate source of important news, well-vetted expert advice, and judgment-free understanding to help families and adults navigate the very real challenges that arise from ADHD and related mental health conditions.

Parenting

Davis, Laura and Keyser, Janis (1997). Becoming the Parent You Want to Be.

Haidt, J (2024). The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused an Epidemic of Mental Illness.

Stixrud, William and Johnson, Ned (2018). The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives.

Relational Configurations — Couples, Families, Friends

Fern, Jessica (2020). Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy.

hooks, bell (2019). About Love: New Visions.

Nagoski, Emily (2015). Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

Menakem, Resmaa (2017). My grandmother’s hands: Racialized trauma and the pathway to mending our hearts and bodies.

Perel, Esther (2006). Mating in Captivity

Real, Terry (2022) . Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

Tatkin, Stan (2023) In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them.

Trauma, Attachment & Healing and Freedom

I deeply appreciate and would say “adhere” to these lines offered to us by the late poet Andrea Gibson:

“What if we don't have to be healed
to be whole? There are holes in every inch
of the fabric that makes me who I am…”

(from "every time i ever said i want to die")

Brown, Adrienne Marie (2024). Loving Corrections.

Bryant-Davis, T. (2023). Homecoming : overcome fear and trauma to reclaim your whole, authentic self.

Dana, Deb. (2018). The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation.

Dana, Deb. (2020). Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices.

Fern, Jessica. (2020). Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

Foote, Jeffrey et al., (2014). Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change. (& podcast Center for Motivation and Change)

Gay, R. (2019). The Book of Delights.

Gibson, A. (2021). You Better Be Lightning.

Hersey, T. (2022). Rest is resistance :A manifesto

Hardy, Kenneth V. (2023). Racial Trauma: Clinical Strategies and Techniques for Healing Invisible Wounds.

Nieto, Leticia. (2010). Beyond Inclusion, Beyond Empowerment A Developmental Strategy to Liberate Everyone.

Taylor, S. R. (2018). The body is not an apology : the power of radical self-love.

van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma.